Parenting is a cult

Think about some common parent quotes – but replace “the baby” with “the Leader.”

  • I never knew love until I met the Leader.
  • I would do anything for the Leader.
  • The Leader gives my life meaning.
  • The Leader has made me lose many friends.
  • The Leader has made me feel like I have no identity.
  • Please don’t do that.  It will upset the Leader.
  • Sign on the door:  “Do not ring the bell.  Shhh.  The Leader is sleeping.”
  • Sign on your car: “The Leader is on board.”
  • I made three different lunches today, none of which were eaten, because the Leader didn’t like what I cooked.
  • The Leader takes up all my time and money.
  • I sat and cried in my car the first time I had to leave the Leader.
  • I’m staying in a loveless marriage for the Leader.
  • The Leader saved my life.
  • I sacrifice so much for my Leader.
  • How can you speak ill of my Leader?  How can you not want to join?
  • You don’t know tired until you know the Leader.
  • I promise my Leader – I will stalk you, flip out on you, lecture you, drive you insane, be your worst nightmare and hunt you down like a bloodhound when needed because I LOVE YOU.
  • I won’t date you if the Leader doesn’t like you.

Now, I cannot take credit for this thought; it came from a social media group called Childfree by Choice.  But it certainly is an eye-opener.  When I chose to be child free, it didn’t occur to me that it would be anyone else’s business, or that I would be subject to so much judgement.  It’s astounding how freely criticism has been doled out over the years.  My own doctor refused to tie my tubes.  “You’ll change your mind.”  (No.  I have given this a great deal of thought and stick to the original decision made when I was 14)  In some cases the easiest route was to lie, and say I tried, but it wasn’t meant to be.  All of which brings us back to the cult mentality.  You MUST have children or be forever outcast?  No personal choice permitted?  Um, what the hell is that about?

Maybe – just maybe – the rest of the world is brainwashed.